This is a real life clinical case study which emphasizes the need for intimate sexual communication.

There was a couple ( X & Y) who had come to me for alleviation, from their sexual dysfunction. They were extremely distressed and were not having sex since a long duration, their communication had eroded and they were just existing for the kids sake. However the lady finally took the step and decided to seek help. That is when she searched for a lady doctor who is into sexual medicine, approached her spouse and convinced him.,

When I examined their case in my chamber I found them to have a lot of sadness and bitterness. The husband complained that his wife was completely non responsive sexually hence he did not want to have sex with a cold corpse. Out of anger and to teach his wife a lesson, he stopped having sex with her. He confided that he didn’t have any affairs due to his conservative upbringing plus he loved his kids too much to get involved anywhere, as he saw his office colleagues suffer as an aftermath of an affair.

The wife said to me she did care for her husband but she was not sexually satisfied by him in any case, so she was glad that they don’t have sex at all. But off late it has been pricking her mind that the gap was increasing between them drastically hence she wanted to repair it.

I put the couple on sex therapy which teaches a couple to unlearn and relearn about the art of sensuality. Touching is a very significant part of sexuality and sensuality. Opening all our five senses while touching sensually, whispering sweet nothings, giving and taking feedback of what feels good and preserving intercourse for the last part of the treatment modality. Also they began to slowly communicate via SMS and emails about needs, wants & fantasies. Complimenting each other, rediscovering their physical pleasure. The couple was compliant and followed their doctor’s advice.

With the above case as example I would like to stress on the fact that women want a communicative partner who is kind and passionate rather than only an orgasm. Women want to be desirable in their partner’s eyes, they want a hard erection rather than a long penis. Women’s sexual wants are rather simple but inability to communicate makes it look complex. Please don’t hesitate seeking medical advice when in need, a stitch in time saves nine! So now that some mysteries are open guys please take the hint and see your sexual lives bloom.

Dr. Sharmila Majumdar