Talk about it. There’s no replacement for good old-fashioned communication. Sure, sex is a sensitive topic and you may hurt feelings by giving pointers, but you’re not giving pointers. You’re telling your spouse what you like. Most partners are happy to do what you like, especially if it drives you wild.
If you’re not having the kind of sex you like and you feel too embarrassed to talk about it, then that’s your ownership, not your partner’s. Get up the guts and just say it. You can’t expect your spouse to read your mind.
If, despite your attempt to communicate your needs doesn’t yield any result it best to consult a professional sexologist and sort things out before the problem becomes chronic and drives a gap between your spouse and you.
Make an Appointment with Dr. Sharmila Majumdar at the Sexual & Mental Health Clinic, Hyderabad.